4 Ways to Attract Your Yaoi Uke!

Are you a strong, passionate male with a hint of domination in your personality? Then you must be a seme! What is a seme you ask? Well, a seme is the dominant person in a yaoi pairing; they are sometimes older, usually more masculine and often grumpy seeming types. Sometimes though, they can have a squishy center! Now that you know this, surely you must be asking what is the other role in a yaoi pairing? Well, that would the uke, the yin to your yang. Ukes are usually sweet, carefree characters with a spring in your step. Sound like your cup of tea? Then maybe you should read this guide on how to bag yourself an uke.

1. Your first step is to find the uke. Think of places they might like to hang out, concerts of totally kakkoii (cool) bands, trendy shops or bars and restaurants.  Go to these places, maybe bring a friend or act cool as a lone wolf. If one place isn’t working, try scoping around, there may be ukes in places you like or you would lease expect them to be.

2. Think about your strengths, do you have a dazzling smile, a charming demeanor? Use these to your advantage once you have found someone that interests you. Say for example you are in a bar and your target is getting some drinks. Maybe you could pull up by them and flash that dazzling smile? They would fall in love immediately!

3. Chat-up lines are cheesy! They won’t impress anyone and will tarnish your image as a seme. A good way to start a conversation is to make an observation or ask a question. Examples of this include “what are you drinking?” or “I like your shirt, where is it from?” These are both good conversation starters. Maybe you could even use your talents such as playing guitar at an open mic night.

4. Don’t forget, ukes are attracted to strong, cool, nonchalant types. The perfect seme is a tiny bit haughty, confident and masculine…But that doesn’t mean you can’t care deep down. Just remember that on the surface you should be all man. This will have your uke melting at your feet, getting their number should be a breeze.

Now you have your Uke, what do you do?

The answer is simple, date! You can do whatever you want; maybe something that interests you both or something totally new. A good idea is to take your uke somewhere new to them that you are comfortable with. You will be endeared by their cute, shy personality whereas they will fall for how calm and interesting you are when you take them to these magical new places. Try not to push them away by being too seme, they might think you don’t care so instead act like you are humoring them and occasionally find a moment to romantically compliment them on their personality quirks (say for example they have a cute laugh) or something they have done that has amused you. To be an attractive seme you don’t have to be cold, dashing the occasional compliment towards your uke will only cause them to fall for you even more. Another good tip is to treat them to nice things sometimes, like a drink or something small that they like.

Now that you know the basics, go out and find yourself your perfect uke! Remember; be confident and cool and use your many strengths to shine as a super seme!